It happens to the best of us.
Sometimes life dishes out more than we can handle in a single moment.
Things start to go wrong, sadden us, depress us.
It’s things that are beyond our control.
When You Feel Your World Start Tumbling In
I’m having one of those
days couple weeks.
I didn’t ask for it. We never do.
But it happens.
It starts with one bad thing. Bad news about a loved one.
And it starts to trickle downward.
It’s like your life resembles tiles in Dominoes after the tumbling effect has started.
We can’t stop it.
We can’t slow it.
It just happens.
How Do You Deal With It?
People deal with stressors in different ways.
Depending on the type of “stress” could greatly influence how we deal.
For instance, if I’m dealing with the “Dominoes effect at work”, I usually can just walk away and blow off steam.
When I leave work, I can let it all go.
However, recently I’m undergoing a tumbling of a different kind.
It’s sadness and worries and it keeps on coming.
A special friend’s dog is dying slowly and there is nothing I can do. It’s hard to let go.
My very own dog is having surgery next week to remove a potentially cancerous lump. However, she may also have some underlying kidney issues. My dogs are my World and this has me super worried. Decisions, decisions.
Finalization of a failed marriage has kicked in and I can’t help but think, to some extent, that I was a failure. However, I do know that I tried as much as I could and that divorce was the only solution. Ya see, my happiness is what means the most to me.
Having a special friend in my life who is dealing with his own life’s sadnesses and trying to be there for him.
Wanting to be selfish and just run away from it all.
And I find myself wondering what else is yet to come?
When It Gets To Be Too Much For Me
I’m one that likes to tackle all the problems that are thrown in my direction, but, the older I get, the less I feel I am able to fight as much.
I can cry listening to a song on the radio because the words hit me in a certain way.
When I have multiple things coming at me, at times, I just want to run away.
However, I can’t.
I know this.
So, I need to find a way to cope and rejuvenate my strength.
Taking the day off of work and spending it with my two beloved pups.
Just sitting and talking to them brings a sense of relief.
When they look at you as if they know what you are saying, their eyes console me.
Licks on the face or a paw on my leg let me know that they understand and are there for me.
It Doesn’t Solve the Issues at Hand
But it does offer me time to not think of the sadness and refresh myself.
Refreshed myself enough that I can gain the strength to deal with what’s at hand.
Most of the time this can help me.
However, there have been times that nothing has helped and I fell into a whirlwind of depression.
Depression is hella hard to break loose from.
Where the only thing you think can help you is to become numb to the situations.
Some dive into drinking or illegal drugs.
Others, prescription meds from their doctors.
Again, this is only a “numb it” of sorts and does not solve anything.
Eventually, you will have to deal with reality.
And Reality can be one ugly mother!
How Do You Deal with Multiple Stressors in Your Life?
Do you turn to the “numb it” effect or try to deal with it as much as possible “head on”?