I think it’s amazing how times have changed. I was born in the late 60’s and have surpassed many technological changes in our World.
Thinking about dating and relationships
Dating and Relationships have a come a long way from the 50’s and 60’s. At least, that’s what I thought when I began dating in the 80’s.
We didn’t have cell phones. We couldn’t text nor make phone calls without either finding a landline phone or one that we had to drop dimes or quarters into.
We actually used letter writing to message one another. Little love notes that would be passed during classroom time or on the school buses.
We also had our friends that would spread the word quickly if we were crushin’ in a boy or girl.
Sometimes the “hookups” came easy. But the “breakups” always seemed to be worse!
Breaking up in the 80’s
Think about it.
If you were dating in the 80’s and either “got dumped” or was the “dumpee”, how did it happen?
- We called them using a landline phone that we drug into our bedrooms so we could have some privacy.
- We called them using a payphone at the corner store or Mall.
- We wrote them a note and either put it on their car windshield overnight or while they were at work.
- A note could have been placed in their locker if you attended the same school.
- A friend could hand deliver the note and smirk as they handed it over to the “to be dumped”.
- Or, the worse way, just ignore them.
Sounds a bit crazy or harsh but that’s what we had in the 80’s.
Fast forward to the present
When the era of the Internet hit, dating became a bit more complicated and maybe a bit easier.
The Internet has given us dating sites so we could “hookup” with others that we might not normally come across in our daily travels nor recognize that they were potentially single.
But along with this new age of “dating”, a more dramatic way of breaking up has happened.
Nowadays, we can get dumped or dump someone by
- Using IM Chat or FB Messenger
- Using Skype
- Using Social Media
- Text via cellphone
- Phone call
- Or just simply posting it on Facebook (previously Social Media) but I’ve seen this one done firsthand.
It’s pretty hardcore when ya think about it.
But it happens.
Not only has the World become cowardly when it comes to breakups, but just very unkind.
It’s easy to shut out someone by just ignoring them online and blocking their phone number on our cell phones.
Chances of them swinging by your job or your home and leaving a note on your vehicle are slim to none.
It’s a bit cray-cray if you ask me!
As a woman over 40 in the dating World
Another thing we have to remember, as midlifers, not only is there slim pickings out there, but there is a lot of baggage!
People have children, animals, and a lot of emotional hurts and drama with them.
People over 40 have grown accustomed to their ways and may be very unlikely to change their ways for anyone!
Dating over 40 can also be a bit scary! The World is full of cray-cray people looking for booty calls, baby mommas and daddies, sugar mommas and daddies, a place to crash, and someone to take care of them.
Trust me when I say this, the breakups aren’t any easier!
So when you think of technological advances
Think about how impersonal we have become to actually talking to one another face-to-face or via phone. Texting is much easier and convenient.
That means if you are single or a divorcee nowadays, chances are you may get dumped via text or messenger.
Are you ready for this?
How do you feel about dating or dumping in 2017/2018?